"I guess I have a lot of problems, so many that I don't have time to go into them all in detail. Suffice it to say I'm anal, obsessive, vain, quick to temper, overly introspective, lazy, judgmental, insecure, and self-righteous. Probably the most annoying thing about me is that I'm hugely opinionated. But I kind of make up for that by always being right."

Monday, August 15, 2005

Your First Job in Life

There’s a big movement in psychology today that says your first priority in life should be your relationship with your spouse -- that should take priority to your relationship with your children. It’s the kind of thing that when you first hear it you think, “Geez, that can’t be right.” And there’s a reason why you think that: It isn’t right!

Have you ever had a friend who was a psychiatrist or a psychologist? If so, you must know that there are no more over-medicated, dysfunctional wackos on the planet than these people! Why would you abandon your common sense in favor of what they said about anything?!

Your first job in life -- number one -- is to love your kids with that I’d-die-for-them, I’d-die-without-them, unbelievable intensity that will provide them with the foundation they’ll need to become healthy, happy adults. Your spouse already is an adult!

Your second job in life is to socialize your kids, to give them the tools they’ll need to build their lives. Again, your spouse already has a life.

Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t love and support your spouse, too. Of course you should. No matter how bitter and vindictive she is.